chore: fixes ported from zstd

[baileympearson]

Description

What is changing?

1. Because we're forced to test on Node16, we need to use Python 3.6 (3.8 is not available from the apt package registries). this requires node-gyp<=10.1. This PR pins to 10.1.
2. The dockerfile squashes test errors for container builds. this is fixed.
3. Once errors are no longer squashed, linux arm64 builds time out. The containers (or the qemu emulation) themselves are just incredibly slow (seeing the same issue locally and on zstd). I've adjusted the tests not to have a timeout.

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What is the motivation for this change?

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